It's My Anniversary

I got married on September 2, 1990, I cannot believe it has been 18 years. Danny and I dated for 5 years, we were engaged for 2 of them. We have had a lot of ups and downs but still manage to stick it out and stay together. I have to say the "stay together" part is mostly him. I am the "i'm over it and I am out the door" type of person. I definately keep him on his toes. A lot of people compare us to Doug & Carrie of King of Queens. There are differences but I do see some resemblances. Sometimes certain conversations or arguments they have, I turn to Danny and say "didn't we have that same conversation?" Pretty wierd. Danny is definately the more affectionate type, me not so much. At one time we took a "love language" test and found out that what tells me he loves me is (a) acts of service and (b) buying me things. Okay, I know I am a little shallow but to me action speaks way more louder than words. So, the hugs and the I love yous are nice but not my love language. Danny's love language is (a) signs of affection and (b) words of encouragement. So, when I buy him the latest electronic gadget he will love it but not as much as "Honey, I am so desperately in love with you and love you more today than I did yesterday and here's a big hug and a long passionate kiss." Yeah, I just don't get it but I do try. Divorce rates are high when you have a child with special needs (we got through that), higher when you have a child with cancer (survived that) and even higher when your child passes away (currently dealing with that). We have beaten many odds before and we got through it together. I must say I give my husband all the credit for it. We have had family situations, money situations, and then the worst of it the death of our precious baby girl. I am amazed at his efforts to keep us all together. Danny is definatey the glue that holds our relationship together and I am so thankful for that. He can annoy the &*^% out of me but I am glad he is my man, my partner and my best friend. Happy Anniversary, Dan...I love you!!

Above is the song we danced to at our wedding. We didn't have a special song. Are couples supposed to do that? I never really got the "you are a couple now so pick a meaningful song that if you get married you can dance to it." I wished we had so that I did not feel the pressure of finding a special song. Danny dedicated songs like "I Just Died In Your Arms Tonight" songs that showed the guy all heartbroken...not a good choice for a 1st dance. This song was hot at the time, was a guy and girl singing (Yup, thats Danny Wahlburg in that hairdo, I am sure he is regretting that look) and pretty fitting for a first dance song. So, I hope you like it. It is bringing back lots of memories of my wedding. The big hair, the mullets, the New York accents, vogueing to Madonna, Hammertime and of course lots of love, food, laughter and fun!!! Enjoy!!